REASONS WHY YOU ARE UNHAPPY.... Why do you think you don't have money, with little or no source of income? Why do you think you are sad often, no matter how happy you try to be? The problem is YOU! Do you know that you carry so much power with you and everything you do, starts with your mind.
When you hear or read, "Life is what you make it". It is a fact. I would be talking about the two types of mindset.
They're Fixed mindset and The Growth Mindset.
Majority of the world's population have the Fixed Mindset so don't panic if you find yourself having the characteristics of this type of mindset. I was a victim growing up, bullied by peer mates, betrayed by friends.
I lived to please and felt my best wasn't good enough. I couldn't walk in public without having someone accompany me. I could walk past a gathering and swear they talking about me/laughing at me.
My self esteem dropped so low and depression started setting in and soon developed into suicide attempts yet I could be out with people and still put up a serious face that you think my self confidence is incomparable but inside, i was fighting a battle.
One evening I read one of Mrs. Sonia Ogbonna's write-ups and I realized the problem had always been me. My life was going the way I shaped it. I spent time trying to please people no matter how uncomfortable it made me because I wanna have a good record. I got it all wrong and i was the scourge of my own misery.
By the time I finished reading the article, I made the decision to love myself first before i can truly love anyone, become my own best friend before i can know what it means to be a best friend to someone else, be able to do my stuff on my own without looking for someone to stand with me.
A Fixed Mindset always wanna have friends because that's where her confidence comes from. I got control of my mind and told myself whatever it is i wanna do, then I set out to accomplish it. I have never felt better and happier.
With a fixed mindset, you tell yourself "i can't do this" and your mind sends the message to your
brain and your whole body acts in accordance. People with the Growth Mindset knows that's how the mind works and this is why they are often the most successful people.
People with the Fixed Mindset give up after one or two attempts on a project but people with the
Growth mindset, keep persisting till they have achieved their goals.
Here are the reasons why you think you don't have money and the reasons why you are
unhappy (CHARACTERISTICS OF A FIXED
MINDSET):
1. JUDGEMENTAL ATTITUDE:
You keep questioning everyone's success. Not everyone sells their souls to the devil to make money. You don't see people when they are working hard for years but once their hard work pays, it looks like it happened over night. People with the Fixed Mindset query about someone's success while people with the Growth Mindset get motivated to work harder.
2. COMPETITION:
This is common among the female folks. You wanna do what your friend is doing because you want to show her you can do it better. The time and money you would have channeled into positive thoughts and getting known for what you are good at, you are using it to buy followers and accessories just to prove you are bigger. Don't get me wrong, if buying followers and accessories put food on your table, then do it because you are good at it not because you want to outrun your friend.
3. LACK OF GRATITUDE :
You are always complaining about how bad things are, and you have never taken a moment to appreciate the good things you have including the ones given to you freely by God.
4. TROLLING:
A troll is an unhappy person.. There's no reason to attack or insult people because they don't share the same views with you. A rich man with a Growth Mindset doesn't troll. Has he finished making money?
5. BEING UNSUPPORTIVE:
You are scared of helping others or supporting your friends because you think they will make money more than you do? That's a fixed mindset. You get what you give out. When you help people, you will be helped, it doesn't have to come exactly the way you give it.
6. EXPECTATIONS:
This is one of the unhealthiest ways to live. Be friends with someone because you expect to eat from them? Only lazy people do this. Your friend is human too, instead of expecting to get, give, give and
give again then be sure to always receive. Don't place all your eggs in a basket and expect it gives you a positive result. Try out new things, Give your best shots to what you are good at and be patient enough to be consistent and persistent.
7. ENVY :
When something good happens for someone, you ask why them and not you but we all have the same 24 hours in a day and we spend the time on Priorities. What did you do with yours?
8. WRONG ASSOCIATION:
Focus on what you need not what you want. Be with people that gear you towards making your dreams a reality.
Is your closest friend living their dreams or do they have a Fixed Mindset? The attitude of the people we spend time with, have about 60% effect on us so if you around Negative-minded people, you are not much different from them. If your goal is to be rich, channel all your energy
towards it and be a step closer to making it a reality everyday.
Having a Growth Mindset starts with making the decision to let go of the Fixed Mindset and anything that will take you back to it. Appreciate yourself and how far you have come, tell yourself how far you wanna go.
Your mind is very powerful and obedient to you so whatever you tell it, it does. Drop the hate attitude. Love people and use things, don't love things and use people to get it. You can never get far enough with that attitude.
A Fixed Mindset takes from you and gives you nothing, it is a Poverty Mindset.
You deserve to be happy and you have no reason not to be. The power lies in you so start living happily today and be truly happy for others' success. If you thank GOD for what HE has done for other people, He'll do yours.
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