If you’ve ever had your heart broken, i’m going to give it to you straight. While every breakup happens differently, a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons.
If we really think about it, it can’t ALWAYS be something that the guys did … can it? Of course, this doesn’t fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn’t apply to every woman but it does leave us wondering.
Check out these ten reasons why he may have broken up with you.
1. Always Give Your Paramour A Listening ears:
Women don’t listen. When a man says something, give him a chance to speak.
Listen to what he says. The problem is that sometimes, guys will end up with someone who makes him feel as though he doesn’t know what he’s talking about. We’re not always right, but we do have opinions, and it gets under our skin when we’re made to feel like our opinion doesn’t matter. Who wants to stay with someone like that? Don't judge me by hearsay because "you can't tell what is in a book by its cover."
2. Women listen to their friends too much.
We understand the need for female
friendship. We can go with the girls’ night
out deal. But when you start letting your
single girlfriends (who constantly run guys
off or haven’t dated since antenna TV) get
into the business of your relationship, that’s
asking for trouble. You want to think that
your man has a mind of his own when he’s
out with the guys, right? We’re no different.
We expect you to talk to your girlfriends,
even if it’s about us. Just be careful what
you decide to bring back from those
conversations.
3. Immaturity:
The relationship is NOT a family affair.
We’re not trying to take you away from your family. This is a relationship, not a
kidnapping. However, if we’re mature enough to leave home and keep what goes on
between us just between us, then is it too
much to ask of you to do the same? If you
tell your mom and your sisters about every
single argument and disagreement that we
have, then don’t you think that they’re not
going to like us very much? Then you’ll
wonder why we don’t like going around
them, right?
4. We’re not joined at the hip. We don’t have to go every single place that you go, and we
don’t expect you to go everywhere with us.
That’s what makes our time together
special. We each had our own likes and
dislikes before we met. You did things alone
or with your girls, and that’s fine. Don’t try
to drag your man with you if it’s going to be
nothing but you and the girls talking. We
don’t want to sit and listen to talk about
hair, nails, fashion, who’s man is cheating on
who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that’s the
case.
5. Trust:
Is this a relationship or a prison sentence?
We expect parolees to give an account of
where they’ve been almost all the time, and who they’ve been with. Parole officers
check to see if the parolees actually report
to work. A relationship is supposed to have
more trust than that. If a man feels that he’s
not being trusted, and he hasn’t done
anything deserving of the interrogation
process (a la Law And Order), then don’t
expect to have him around too much longer.
This would apply primarily to someone who
has a lot of insecurities. Why did you concord to date him in the first place, if you can't trust him at all??
6. Independence is great — to a point. Call it
ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. If
you keep telling a man (and showing him,
too) that you can do everything on your own,
then what do you need him for? As shallow
as it may sound, we do have to have our ego
fed just a bit (maybe some guys more than
others, but I think you get the idea).
7. Being too dependent is not a good thing,
either. I know it sounds like we can’t make
up our minds between numbers 6 and 7, but
there is a balance. It’s like we want a grown
woman who can handle her business, but
still let us know that there’s a place in her
life for us that only we can fill. You’re not a
child, and we don’t expect to treat you like
one or take care of you like one. If you
come to a guy for every single thing,and
can’t seem to make up your mind or make
decisions … well, one day he make make up
his mind and not come back.
8. Don’t you ever have anything nice to say?
Yeah, we mess up from time to time (and it may seem that those times run pretty close
together). But what about some props? Can’t
your man do anything right? I’m not talking
about being patronizing or treating him like a
first grader keeping his colors inside the
lines (“Way to go, Ronnie!”). Nobody can
stand always being criticized. Psychologists
call it “positive reinforcement.” Men call it “giving us a break.”
9. There’s no future in the past. We’ve all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from
them, not live in them. if your man made a
mistake, and you’ve agreed to forgive him
for it, then do that. Don’t bring it up and
keep beating him over the head with it. If
you keep bringing up the past, then be
prepared to talk about your man in the past
tense, as in “ex.”
10. Maybe his friends won’t be your friends, but don’t dog them out. It's either he knew
them before he knew you or he knows how
they are. If one (or more) of his friends are
players, he knows this already. You don’t
have to remind him of that. if you keep
making negative comments about them,
what you’re really doing is showing an
insecurity and, in a more subtle way,
expressing a lack of trust. If he’s with you
and everything is going right then don’t let
whatever actions his friends take influence
the relationship.
Of course, this isn’t a complete list. This is
just a conversation starter. Any other
thoughts, or something more to add?
11. Pride :
Pride propel downfall while humility emerge upliftment. Your attitude determines your altitude, pride is the clad of ill-mannered ladies and 95% guys out there disgust such garments that's why they find it very difficult to dance to your tune. Even if you've more money than him, always stay humble.
Don't allow your money to control because no guy want to marry a lady that will be controlling him like a slave, & don't forget that GOD made him the head.
12. Vision:
Don't be destituted. Always contribute significant admonishment to his life, don't be a parasite. Men love women that comprehend where they are heading to & give them ideas that will lead them to their destination forthwith because "iron shapeneth iron." Nobody knows it all. If you're not making his live & dreams meaningful - then you are making his life meaningless. Can you advice your son or brother to be with a girl that's making his dreams abortively meaningless???
13. Lust:
If a guy don't genuinely love a lady, it's certain that he'll use & dump her when ever he want; perhaps, he plighted her for revenge based on numerous times she sanctimoniously disgraced him publicly especially when the guy has nothing in his pocket and bank account. Pompous ladies always fall victim to sarcastic guys that present themselves as the new big boys in town but forgot that "them that sweat with you also deserve to eat the sweet in you."
It's better to sweat with a guy when he is down than to validate his sweet when he has arrived!
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